Fore-give-ness is love given before another has either given it , earned it, accepted it, or even understood it. It is the Father running out to embrace his prodigal son even before he knows whether the son has come repenting of all the destruction he has caused, or whether he might be returning just to ask for money. He loves his son not because the son has earned it or can understand it but simply because he needs his Father’s love and cannot grow without it.
Jesus Christ allows us to choose between being the elder brother focusing on his own pain or being the father focusing on the son’s pain and holding out welcoming arms of healing.
—from Healing the Family Tree by Dr. Kenneth McAll, Ch. 3: Christ’s Healing